For some odd reason, there is a certain percentage of the public that loves to hold grudges against those who they believe had done some kind of wrong upon them. Holding angst against the opposing party for a week or so is fine, but anything more than a month is simply a farce. If the reason behind the grudge relates to a certain death or even a life-changing event directly related to the person, then those grudges are justifiable. The grudge-bearer can hold these ill feelings for all they want, but they should also understand that these feelings are unhealthy for the body and mind. Sooner or later, these unwanted feelings will cause the individual more grief and a decreased quality of life, which could lead to other unwanted events like injury and death.
The only way for the grudge-bearer to gain any satisfaction is when the opposing party comes back to “apologize” for the perceived wrongdoing or suffers a devastating blow in one’s life. If the grudge-bearer percieves this apology as of goodwill, then he or she might be able to forgive the other party. However, one can simply overlook this apology as a faux means to an end, and still carry these ill feelings to the grave. By doing so, both members may clash against each other until the matter is resolved, either through compromise and mutual understanding or the permanent separation of the two parties. Separation can be done voluntarily, court martial, or by taking one’s life.
On the opposite side of the coin, the grudge could be so trivial that the supposed afflicted member could move on with life by casting away all connections with this individual and still bear minimal losses. If the opposing member offered a helping hand to the grudge-bearer with good intent and recieves retribution, then there is no reason why he or she should risk his well-being and sanity for an ungrateful person. This is espeically true when the ungrateful person happens to have little to no influence over the other person’s life. If he or she does have an integral role in one’s life, then he or she should reconsider new avenues for living one’s life or amend the current dismal issue.
In the event that the grudge-bearer has little or no impact on anybody’s life, only the one holding the grudge suffers while everyone else is enjoying the rest of their lives. The only saving grace for this individual is to learn how to forgive people and to recognize that these grudges might be a form of denial or have a relation to one’s past, traumatic or not.
All in all, these grudges must be dealt with swiftly to protect the wellbeing of oneself and surrounding public. If people want to hate without any concrete evidence, then let them be and move on with life. Nothing could be more frustrating and depressing than convincing a person who refuses to understand the current situation and watch them walk down the path of suffering.